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AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

One of the benefits of being a Psychologist for me is being able to always be grateful. On any given day, I am reminded of the many blessings in my life. I may see a client who is terminally ill and be grateful for my health. I may see a client who has lost a …

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KINDNESS

                    A new year, a perfect opportunity to start afresh, to have a renewed sense of hope and optimism. Amongst all of the many things we could want this year, I wonder about wanting to be kinder: KINDER TO OURSELVES:  To be able to honour our heart’s …

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LOVE LANGUAGES

Similar to the various languages people speak all around the world, Dr Chapman proposes that there are also different love languages.  Love languages are the different ways in which we show love and want to be loved.  Dr Gary Chapman describes 5 different love languages. In establishing you and your partner’s love language, you would …

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PERSONAL REFLECTION

As the year comes to a close, we often reflect on how we have performed in the year. For some of us, it’s been an awesome and successful year.  For some of us, it’s been an average year and for some of us, it’s been a year of unmet expectations. Reflecting on the year may …

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TAKE THE POWER BACK over your emotions

In therapy sessions, I often hear clients speak about how others make them feel and how outraged or upset they are by this.  Others, may be, their partners, children, family members, friends, colleagues or managers.   We seem to have this idea that others have control over our emotions and that others can make us …

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THE EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Dr John M. Gottman, a renowned author and expert in the field of relationship and couple work, coined the idea of an emotional bank account.  Similar to our financial bank accounts where our goal is to have a positive balance and to build our savings, the same principle applies for an emotional bank account.  Dr …

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THE RELATIONSHIP DANCE

Previous to becoming a Solution Focused Therapist, my approach to couple counselling was to ideally have 2 committed partners in the room and to effect positive change in their relationship by exploring changes on both sides.  Unfortunately, this sometimes ended up in an attacking match or what I call a ‘verbal tennis match’ – each …

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THE SOLUTION FOCUSED MARRIAGE

The Solution Focused Marriage is a book written by Elliot Connie, a therapist in Texas who specialises in working with couples.  I have had the privilege of attending workshops and conferences by Elliot Connie and he is very passionate about couple work.  In his book, Elliot speaks about 5 simple habits that will bring about …

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